You can’t always victimize yourself. You have to separate your emotions and understand that you can be wrong. I’ve known people who say “they don’t invite me, or nobody likes me”. But sometimes you literally have to just put yourself out there. Nobody invites you, invite yourself or plan something where everyone goes out with you. I know sometimes you may feel like if you do, you are a burden. But sometimes people don’t notice you because of your attitude or you don’t put yourself out there. Also you have to recognize that sometimes you are the problem. Human beings aren’t perfect, which is why there are possibilities that we can be wrong. Sometimes there are things we need to fix. I’ve met people who always victimize themselves. Like no! That isn’t right, you aren’t always right. Sometimes you need to take a seat back and analyze what’s going on. For example I would feel so depressed when people would say mean things to me. Sometimes I would let people talk to me a certain way I didnt deserve. But now that I think about it I am here victimizing myself, but I’m the one who let them talk to me like that in the first place. Obviously it doesn’t give anyone the right to treat me like that, but I allowed them. People know who they can mess around with. People will only go to the point that you allow them to. There has to be a balance with victimizing yourself. I was one of the types of people that would think I was always the problem. So I would blame myself and even if I didn’t do anything I would think I was the cause. But that has a lot to do with my past traumas, I will speak more about that later. Many times people have a problem being vulnerable. Sadly to say because many people have gone through heartbreaks, people leaving them or hurting them, people don’t like to be vulnerable. They put up a guard so that no one has the chance to hurt them. That’s a good and bad thing. In life for everything there is a balance. It’s bad because when you don’t like to be vulnerable you put up this guard and can hurt people. Atleast from the people that I met that don’t like to be vulnerable. They are more unintentionally mean, not careful with their words, hardheaded, less likely to talk about their feelings; how they truly feel, less likely to put theirselves out there, more likely to call themselves a loner. But like I said it sounds harsh but it’s kind of a front. I say this because on the inside they are still human beings they feel. They just suppress their feelings and it’s bad because when you do that you bottle everything up until it explodes in the worst time possible. That’s why you see people being petty or passive aggressive. Through those comments they are really just shouting out how they really feel. I say it’s a good thing because it’s also good to guard your heart. God himself in the word tells us to guard our hearts. Not everyone truly wants to be in your life or is meant to be in your life. Some people just want to hurt you and take away what’s in you. This world can be so evil and sinful. Sin brings about alot of nasty and traumatic things. Which is why it’s good to Becarful with your heart. But God never intended us to shut our emotions down, he knows we are human. In fact he created us with emotions but he also created a balance in life too. He gave us authority to be able to have a balance in life. Victimizing can be so dangerous because sometimes it clouds your judgment. That’s why sometimes you need to get out of your own head and have someone else evaluate the situation. Most times because you are the one going through it, it’s hard to see the whole picture or from up above. I’m not saying you are always wrong but I’m simply saying you can be wrong as well. You have to evaluate the situation wisely. Always remember just like you hurt sometimes other people too. We have to put ourselves in peoples shoes just like Jesus did. He came to be here on earth to be like us, difference is he came he to show that we can be like God in human form. In every situation you have to literally say this expression, “what would Jesus do or say?”.