Where do we find this..? I feel like for years this has been one of my biggest challenges. I think we don’t realize that a lot has a play in this. It could be how you’ve been raised. It could be your childhood trauma. Maybe what you believe about yourself or how you let other people define you. The fact of the matter is that somewhere along the way, in your life you let these lies creep in and reign your thoughts/heart. Over the years I’ve had to learn that as you get connected to God, he shows you who you are in him. He calls us loved, wanted, precious, beautiful, powerful, wonderfully and fearfully made, wise, joyful, patient, etc. I think it’s when I stopped depending on others opinion about me is when I truly had a good self-esteem. I started to realize that peoples opinion about me changed like every day. One day people liked me the other day they didn’t. One day people think I’m beautiful the next day, people thought I was average or ugly. One day people thought I was annoying the next day people thought I wasn’t. People like my hair curly sometimes, other days they like it pin straight. Sometimes people like my presence and other days they just want to push me away. Sometimes my words and being please people, the next day it doesn’t. Some people think my smile is so genuine others think I’m mad fake. You see the way people see you is so different, it’s ever changing because they are human. Humans aren’t the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. People judge you or determine who you are based on your actions, how you look, your mistakes, etc. I always tell God I want to be more like you, I want to see people the way you do. Why is this one of my prayer petitions? Because I know God doesn’t see people the way we humans do. We can fail a thousand times and God is still going to see you the way he created you. God sees beyond what we can see because he is omniscient. Our mind can’t possibly comprehend Gods greatness. That’s why God says in his word that we should ask for peace that surpasses all understanding. He knows we are humans and want to know everything, but we can’t. We aren’t at Gods level, he is bigger than our understanding. The way you get to know yourself is by getting to know the Father. When I’m intimate with God I ask him to remove all the things I let contaminate me that are not of him. You see God created us one way, but we can choose to be another. That’s why when you accept Jesus as your savior he restores you as a whole. You are now a new creation, which means all the old is forgotten. Meaning the old sinful self is new, changed and restored. To be restored means to go back to the beginning; So how God originally designed you to be before sin took place. That’s why I try not to judge people based on what they are currently showing me. I have to put myself in their place and understand that they aren’t perfect. People use the excuse “well I’m not God”. You are right you aren’t, but isn’t our whole walk about being more like Jesus. Jesus saw people the way God did. In fact he most definitely did because he believed we were worth saving, that’s what the Father believed. That’s why he sent his only son to die on the cross for us. It took me time to understand who I am, i also needed to heal my past traumas. I would let my mistakes define who I am. But I let go of that, I let God tell me who i am for a change. I am the daughter of the most high. Which means I am favored, loved, free, chosen, renewed, saved, powerful, etc. That’s what God says about his children. I don’t know about you but that’s the best identity anyone could have. This identity is constant/consistent, which means it never changes. When people know that you are Gods child they know they can’t mess with you, why? Because no one messes with God, they may think they can but they are just fools (God says it in his word). One of the things the devil loves to attack us on, is our identity. If the devil can attack your identity and make you think you are something you are not, he’s got you. Who we believe we are is how we react to a lot of things in life and what we think about ourselves. That’s why you got to read in the word and let God himself tell you who you are. When the devil or people want to tell you otherwise, you will be rooted and ignore it. You will walk with the truth and not believe in the lies. The word of God says he is the truth, the way and the life. If he is the truth that means he can’t lie. Which means God doesn’t lie about who you are in him, you are a child of God. So If you are reading I want to encourage you to get to know the Father because once you know him you get know yourself. You get to know who he created you to be all along.